When I first came out to family and friends, there was one blog that we read religiously, Andrew Marin’s. Him and his book and his foundation have been a Godsend for me and those in my corner- so, I was really really really honored when he asked if I would be a monthly contributor to his blog on Patheos. He is trying to create a space where we can tell our stories and our perspectives and create an environment for dialogue to flourish. I feel so blessed to be a part of this. Here is my debut post!
I should start at the beginning and stop short there. It’s important to look at those small squares throughout the tape of memory. Those short significant moments in their every detail. True healing, I have found, has to come through something of a slow visitation. A breaking apart of the past, picking up small shards of where things went terribly wrong. Facing them. Saying them. Saying them out loud.
I need to use a magnifying glass and see the short breaths where big things happened. In this case, I want to talk about ten seconds.…