Jesus Jukes and Why We Need To Know Where You Stand (at Rachel Held Evans’ blog)

Hey guys! Today I am writing over at Rachel Held Evans’ blog about something that has been bugging me for some time. What is it? It is the response I keep hearing from those that are trying to take a spot in the middle and thinking they can do so by writing off questions regarding same-sex marriage with, I don’t care, Jesus didn’t talk about it. Well, it’s a bit more complicated than that. Here’s how it starts:


A couple months ago, Jen Hatmaker did the impossible: She wrote that same-sex marriage is sinful and left me in layers of love. It was a startling and confusing moment for me.


But what I respected most about her article is she didn’t brush it off. She didn’t shy away. She said: “To the degree it rests on my transparency as a leader, I bear responsibility for the conscience of others, and it is unfair to withhold.” Furthermore, she offered up a compassionate and grace-filled way forward for traditional marriage supporters and reminded them that many Christians disagree with their position, but they are no less godly, smart, or loving for doing so. And for all that, I so appreciate her. Even though I believe she is dead wrong.


In the pack I run in, most of my friends are slightly right of center. And when it comes to the issue of same-sex marriage in the church, they are committed to ambiguity. It’s brought up in conversation and they look at me, warmth in their eyes, and say: “You are you. You are not an issue to me. To be honest, I just don’t care about the theology stuff. You’re my friend. That settles it.”


Because I know their intent is good and it certainly sounds sweet and affirming enough, I nod and let it go. Yes, I am happy that I have not been cut down to one characteristic, and yes, I am happy that I am your friend and that you love me no matter what. This is all good news for me.


But just underneath the surface, I rebuff a little. There’s a tic. Something doesn’t feel right, because from my vantage point, there is a world of difference between I don’t know and I don’t care.


Read the rest over at Rachel’s blog.

  • Sheri

    Thank you for sharing this, Ben. Yep, It’s an “in your face” posting. Which is good! It calls us all to get off the fence & figure it out. I have been feeling strongly lately that is what I need to do also. I have been taught one way (conservative), but I know I have changed to believe the opposite. Do you know of any books or resources that help explain the non-conservative viewpoint? Thank you. I appreciate your guts in standing up & calling people to also stand for what they believe. You are such a courageous person. I respect you.

  • Julie

    Hm, I respect your viewpoint, but not sure I agree. Do you have the right to demand anyone else share their thoughts and opinions, because you really want to know? Wouldn’t it be the same to then demand someone reveal if they are gay, because you really want to know? Now a person’s actions, if they are discriminating against you or being hateful, that is different. But if that is not the case, then the rest is MYOB!

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